How to Avoid Ugly Arguments

Every couple, every friend, every teammate and every companion argues. Some people do it by shouting at each other while others do it by avoiding conversation or any form of contact. No matter how you do it, the result is the same — the situation leaves you resentful and unhappy. However, this doesn’t have to be the end of an argument. Arguing can lead to growth and problem-solving. You can learn to argue more constructively and make sure that an argument will lead to positive results.

The first step is to acknowledge that anger is not a destructive emotion, although it is negative. There is a big difference between rage and anger. When you get angry, you need to express your feelings; on the other hand, when you are full of rage, you tend to break things or walk out of a relationship.

Some people, especially men, do not talk about their feelings until they burst with negative emotion. When a couple can approach a situation in a realistic way and deal with it in a safe way, arguments are less likely to happen between them. If couples fully understand how their partner feels about a situation, most arguments can be avoided.

It is very important not to try to dominate the argument by raising your voice. Whisper is a magical solution to a lot of the hurt feelings and differences. It can reduce the tension between the parties and increase the chances of reconciliation.